Safety and Consent When Dating Over 60

In short

On Granny Slags, every photo is reviewed but what members write about themselves is not checked. Meet in public first, tell someone where you'll be, and never send money to someone you haven't met. Consent can be withdrawn at any time. Report scams to Report Fraud (UK), Scamwatch or ReportCyber (Australia) or the Gardaí (Ireland).

Key facts
Emergency	999 (UK), 000 (Australia), 112 or 999 (Ireland)
Fraud, England, Wales, NI	Report Fraud, 0300 123 2040
Fraud, Scotland	Police Scotland, 101
Scams, Australia	Scamwatch; ReportCyber if money or details lost
Fraud, Ireland	Your bank, then any Garda station

What does Granny Slags check?

Every photo uploaded to Granny Slags is reviewed. What members write about themselves is not checked: age, town, job, marital status and the rest are whatever the person typed. Profiles are also shared with partner sites in the same network, so someone messaging you may have joined through a different site.

Members can buy an optional ID badge. It shows that the person matched a photo ID to a selfie through LEM Verify, a verification provider. Some accounts are asked to verify before they can carry on, for example after signing up through a VPN or being flagged. Treat the badge as one useful signal, not a character reference. How Granny Slags works explains the rest of the set-up.

Consent means both of you freely agree to each thing, each time, and either of you can change your mind. Casual doesn't mean anything goes. It means you've agreed to keep things light, and everything else still needs agreeing.

Yes to one thing is not yes to everything. Agreeing to meet, or to come back for a coffee, isn't agreement to sex.
Anyone can change their mind, before or during, and the other person stops. No sulking, no persuading.
A clear head matters. If either of you has had too much to drink to decide clearly, it's not the night.
No photos or recordings without a clear yes to that specific photo, and nothing forwarded, ever.
Respect a no in messages too. If someone doesn't reply, or says they're not interested, that's the answer.

Age-gap arrangements add one more point: agree what you both want before you meet, so neither of you is working from assumptions. Our age-gap casual dating guide has suggestions for that conversation.

How to spot a romance scam

A romance scam is a fake relationship built to get money or personal details out of you, and the giveaway is almost always a request for money from someone you haven't met. Australians reported $28.6 million in romance scam losses to Scamwatch in 2025, up 21.8 per cent on the year before. The warning signs listed by Australia's National Anti-Scam Centre overlap with the warnings An Garda Síochána gives in Ireland:

Intense flattery and affection very quickly, often mirroring your interests.
A push to move off the site to private messaging.
Reasons they can't meet or video call: working overseas, the military, travel problems.
Small requests for money that grow, for an emergency, a ticket, a gift, an "investment", gift cards or cryptocurrency.
Pressure to act fast and keep it secret from friends and family.

The rule that covers all of it: never send money, gift cards, crypto, bank details or copies of your ID to someone you haven't met. Our romance scams guide shows how these conversations usually build up.

Before and during a first meeting

The safest first meeting is short, public and easy to leave. Video call first, meet somewhere public, make your own way there and back, and tell a friend where you'll be. Our meeting-safely checklist goes through each step, including what to do if you want to leave early.

Keeping your details private

Share less than you think you need to, at least at first. Your profile can be seen across the partner network, so leave your surname, workplace and street off it, and use a photo that isn't on your social media.

Never share your password or a login code; nobody genuine needs it.
Think twice before sending intimate photos to someone you haven't met. Once sent, you can't control where they go.
If you share a card or account, note the billing name shown at checkout; our prices page explains.

Who to contact if something goes wrong

If you're in danger, call the emergency number for your country first. Otherwise, save the evidence: screenshots of the profile and messages, usernames, phone numbers and any bank details you were given. Then block the person and report the profile in the members area.

What happened	UK	Australia	Ireland
Immediate danger	999	000	112 or 999
You've sent money or bank details	Your bank, or call 159 to reach it safely	Your bank or card provider	Your bank, straight away
Fraud or a scam	Report Fraud, 0300 123 2040 (Scotland: Police Scotland, 101)	ReportCyber if you lost money or details; otherwise Scamwatch	Any Garda station
Sexual assault or abuse	England and Wales: 0808 500 2222, 24/7; Scotland: 08088 01 03 02, 5pm to midnight; Northern Ireland: The Rowan, 0800 389 4424, 24/7	1800RESPECT, 1800 737 732, 24/7	Dublin Rape Crisis Centre, 1800 77 8888, 24/7
Identity misuse	Your bank and Report Fraud	IDCARE, 1800 595 160	Your bank and the Gardaí

NHS sexual health clinics also offer help after rape or sexual assault, free and confidentially. If an intimate image of you has been shared without your consent, the Revenge Porn Helpline supports adults in the UK, and StopNCII.org, free for adults anywhere, can help stop the image being posted on participating platforms.

Country-by-country details, including sexual health services, are on our UK, Australia and Ireland pages.

Questions people ask

Are Granny Slags profiles checked?

Every profile photo is reviewed. What members say about themselves, including age, location and situation, is not checked by anyone, so treat a profile as the person's own description. Take your time, video call before meeting, and be wary of anyone whose story keeps shifting.

What does the ID badge mean?

It means the member matched a photo ID to a selfie through the verification provider LEM Verify. It is optional and paid, so plenty of genuine people won't have one. It suggests the person is who their photos show; it tells you nothing about their intentions.

Can I report a profile?

Yes. Use the report option on the profile or conversation in the members area, and block the person. Save screenshots first, because a reported profile may disappear. If someone has taken money or threatened you, report it to the police or fraud service for your country as well.

Should I give my phone number to someone from the site?

Not straight away. Keep the conversation in the members area until you've video called and feel sure of the person. A push to move quickly to text or another app is a common scam sign. When you do share a number, a mobile number is enough; keep your address to yourself until you've met.

What if a date went further than I agreed to?

It isn't your fault, and support is free and confidential. In England and Wales, the 24/7 Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Line is 0808 500 2222; in Scotland, Rape Crisis Scotland is on 08088 01 03 02; in Northern Ireland, The Rowan is on 0800 389 4424; in Ireland the Dublin Rape Crisis Centre helpline is 1800 77 8888; in Australia call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.

Keep reading

Age-gap casual dating: making it good for both of youHow to make a casual age-gap arrangement good for both of you: expectations, assumptions, discretion, money and a safe first meeting.
Meeting a casual date safely after 60: a checklistA practical checklist for a first casual date: before, during and after, plus what to do if something goes wrong.
Romance scams that target older daters, and how to report themHow romance scams build, the warning signs, why casual daters are targeted too, and exactly where to report in each country.

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Checked 18 October 2026. Spotted something out of date? Tell us.